Is this necessary ?
Now I wana get into a serious topic…. Is marriage very much essential in a person’s life?
Day in day out, many people ask me this question. ‘When are you getting married?’
‘When are you planning to get settled?’ Does settling in life means getting married?
Basically talking about me I would love to remain single and keep myself free of all the unwanted commitments that marriage would get me. But on and off when I meet relatives and seek their blessings their first wish for me would be to get married…..
Marriage is the deeper commitment. For some it has religious meaning, because you pledge yourselves before God.
Marriages are made in heaven or so we assume. But in truth marriage is a mere social custom developed in order to maintain discipline in society. And I feel discipline does not come just by getting married but is definitely something that you have instilled in you from your childhood.
People cite many reasons for getting married. As days goes by, you need a support. You need someone to share things with. You need to have kids and watch them grow. Your generation should not stop with you It is a special type of feeling. You can only feel it and not explain it. Without marriage, there is no meaning for life etc.
Do u think it is impossible for a girl to stay alone? When it comes to marriage it is easier for the guy to live up to the expectation of just the girl he marries, but when it comes to the girl she is always expected to fulfill the expectations of her husband, in-laws and also their pet dog if they have one!! Most of the guys are not ready to sacrifice or adjust to the girl. But for her the people, the surrounding, the way of life itself is new together with the strong feeling of leaving her own family. But who cares?
I just hate a guy who says he does not want his fiancée to work….. what a male chauvinistic attitude!!
The present society is much more evolved than the past and people have greater goals in life than just to have a family and raise kids! And the restrictions caused by marriage too are many. After marriage people need to make a whole lot of sacrifices to keep their relationship going, whether they like it or not.
I want to see my daughter get married in my lifetime is a common statement that almost all girls of my age would hear but is this going to give her any happiness? For the parents a mere decent looking guy working in an MNC with highest pay is more than enough to get their daughter married. but is this the only criteria for the girl?
Don’t u think a decent amount of understanding is necessary to lead the rest of the life peacefully? As far as I am concerned I am totally not interested to get married just for the sake of it. I am sure I can enjoy more if I stay alone
What is the benefit I get, by forcefully getting married? Wouldn’t it be screwing the life of someone, by getting married just because of pressure from parents or for the above mentioned selfish reasons?
And many marriages I have known are merely contrived. The couples live with each other more out of compulsion from family, than out of real love or even if there is any love it vanishes after the first few years!!
But my question is what is wrong in staying single? If a person enjoys his privacy and doesn’t mind being alone, then what is wrong? Work is good, so is life.
May be it is totally a different issue if u get in love and have a liking towards the other person that u feel u cannot stay away from that person anymore then there is a meaning to that marriage but definitely not otherwise….. so what is the state for the person who haven’t been struck by the cupid’s arrow?
So is marriage really necessary? Do we have to keep this custom alive just for the sake of tradition or is there a middle way out?
Day in day out, many people ask me this question. ‘When are you getting married?’
‘When are you planning to get settled?’ Does settling in life means getting married?
Basically talking about me I would love to remain single and keep myself free of all the unwanted commitments that marriage would get me. But on and off when I meet relatives and seek their blessings their first wish for me would be to get married…..
Marriage is the deeper commitment. For some it has religious meaning, because you pledge yourselves before God.
Marriages are made in heaven or so we assume. But in truth marriage is a mere social custom developed in order to maintain discipline in society. And I feel discipline does not come just by getting married but is definitely something that you have instilled in you from your childhood.
People cite many reasons for getting married. As days goes by, you need a support. You need someone to share things with. You need to have kids and watch them grow. Your generation should not stop with you It is a special type of feeling. You can only feel it and not explain it. Without marriage, there is no meaning for life etc.
Do u think it is impossible for a girl to stay alone? When it comes to marriage it is easier for the guy to live up to the expectation of just the girl he marries, but when it comes to the girl she is always expected to fulfill the expectations of her husband, in-laws and also their pet dog if they have one!! Most of the guys are not ready to sacrifice or adjust to the girl. But for her the people, the surrounding, the way of life itself is new together with the strong feeling of leaving her own family. But who cares?
I just hate a guy who says he does not want his fiancée to work….. what a male chauvinistic attitude!!
The present society is much more evolved than the past and people have greater goals in life than just to have a family and raise kids! And the restrictions caused by marriage too are many. After marriage people need to make a whole lot of sacrifices to keep their relationship going, whether they like it or not.
I want to see my daughter get married in my lifetime is a common statement that almost all girls of my age would hear but is this going to give her any happiness? For the parents a mere decent looking guy working in an MNC with highest pay is more than enough to get their daughter married. but is this the only criteria for the girl?
Don’t u think a decent amount of understanding is necessary to lead the rest of the life peacefully? As far as I am concerned I am totally not interested to get married just for the sake of it. I am sure I can enjoy more if I stay alone
What is the benefit I get, by forcefully getting married? Wouldn’t it be screwing the life of someone, by getting married just because of pressure from parents or for the above mentioned selfish reasons?
And many marriages I have known are merely contrived. The couples live with each other more out of compulsion from family, than out of real love or even if there is any love it vanishes after the first few years!!
But my question is what is wrong in staying single? If a person enjoys his privacy and doesn’t mind being alone, then what is wrong? Work is good, so is life.
May be it is totally a different issue if u get in love and have a liking towards the other person that u feel u cannot stay away from that person anymore then there is a meaning to that marriage but definitely not otherwise….. so what is the state for the person who haven’t been struck by the cupid’s arrow?
So is marriage really necessary? Do we have to keep this custom alive just for the sake of tradition or is there a middle way out?
Dear Sachu,
Its always hard to oppose a view of a loved one.. but still i have to say. What all u have said in your blog is the reflection of your transition into the new western culture. Being a christian, i will always quote from bible saying that man is made for woman and the vice versa is also true.
I accept it, it an intervention into personal life. But the very purpose of God creating this whole world with two sexes is that they both mingle with each other. This may seem to be more matured answer for a bachelor to give.
What i belife is marriage is the suffice or the culmination or the fullness of life or whatevber you term it.
At last when is your marriage? I'm no different from the community.
Thanks for your birthday wishes.
Loving,
John.
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